Client testimonials

G From East of England. "The judge was extremely complimentary about Safer Lives and highly impressed by your letter, supported by my Barrister's account of your methods ,and it appears that it greatly influenced his sentencing decision."

(Outcome - Community Order)

"On my course, not only have I learned so much of what to expect from my case, but I have found a new understanding of myself. The in-person sessions were so helpful for me, Jenny was easy to speak with and was very knowledgeable about all aspects. The course has helped me to manage my stress and anxiety better as well as prepare for the road ahead. Thank you Jenny for your support for not just myself but my partner and being there for us when ever we needed you. Thanks!"

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

D from the North West. "Safer Lives have been with me throughout this terrible ordeal of my own making. Without them it would have been horrendous, and I would be lucky if I were still alive such were my intentions to go no further. The compassion showed helped me understand that my life still had value, and since those first days I have looked forward to our sessions because I know I will leave every meeting a better person. Thank you too for supporting my wife when every other agency seemed determined to paint her with the same brush as me. We do believe our family is stronger and safer together, and we are determined to work to that outcome.

(Outcome – Suspended Sentence)

Wife of D from the Midlands. "The judge said he wasn't interested in the letters he'd got from his counsellor, or me, or friends and family.  But he did set great store by the fact he'd completed the Safer Lives Programme.  The fact he'd sought you out and travelled to Leeds to do the work with you without being told to or made to.  The judge made reference to it several times."

(Outcome - Suspended Sentence)

(Please note, we encourage and recommend that you have counselling if you need it and get letters to show engagement with any rehabilitation.) 

 

The program has made me realise the seriousness of my behaviour and offence. I was initially narrow minded believing my behaviour to be only voyeuristic. It was this permission that I gave myself which was where my morals were compromised. I now realise i played a part in this larger machine which fuels a horrific industry of suffering. The mental scars and loss of privacy of the victims is something I feel I hadn't considered. While being behind a glass screen and having an extreme addiction to pornography I felt distant and removed.

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation) 

D from the South West. "I called Safer Lives on the advice of my solicitor. I was doubtful but hopeful. I already had my court date and I was going to plead guilty, but I was still struggling to explain to my wife and parents why I had downloaded images of children. How was I going to explain it to the probation officer who was going to write to the court? We did a telephone consultation and then travelled up to Leeds with my wife within two weeks. I left feeling 100% better and with a much better understanding of myself. I wasn’t told anything much, apart from what lay ahead of me, but my understanding was opened up to the things that have influenced my behaviour and why I took the choices I did. My wife spent an hour with Jenny talking through her own fears and worries about press reporting and us having children in the future. This was a tremendous support to her as she had felt alone until that point. I only wish we started this ten months ago.

(Outcome – Community Order) 

"I wish I never had to access this programme but I did. It helps to access early and you will have a clear idea of what's happening and what's going to happen before looking at why it happened and how you are going to stop it happening again. I feel this should be a nationally funded programme and .mandatory. Andy's experience and manner are to his credit as he is easy to talk to about anything and I mean anything. That safety and clarity will allow you to see the future."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

D from West Yorkshire. "I walked home from the Police station not knowing what would face me. The Police Officer had pointed at the Safer Lives leaflet in the pack I was given – he looked me in the face and simply said “call these guys”. It was the best advice I have taken. I spoke to Jenny the same day, and within two days I was sat in front of her with a cup of tea in my hand. I was still scared, but in that room I felt safe. I learned that prison was only one option for me, and seemingly the least likely in my case and that I had some influence on that decision. It made all the difference. I have now completed the Programme, and am calling in for occasional further sessions to keep me sured-up through the rest of the investigation. The sessions have been life changing, and when It’s all done I will miss Jenny’s wisdom, reassurance and compassion. If I struggle with my future, I know who to call.

(Outcome – Community Order)

 

Andy's knowledge was invaluable in helping my understanding of my situation and what I could except going forward in terms of the criminal justice system. More importantly he helped me articulate my own thoughts around my behaviour with pornography and I now have a different outlook. Although this ordeal remains devastating, thanks to Safer Lives I now feel that I can come out the other side of it with an opportunity to get my life back together in the future. 

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

S from East Midlands. "Engaging with Safer Lives was the best option for me. I soon started to explore certain elements of my life growing up which may explain why I had ended up in the situation I had. This along with the emotional support provided by Safer Lives gave me both determination and the targeted emotional support to change my thought processes. Despite my short period in prison, I now feel incredibly positive about my future and can now deal with life's difficulties in a very different but positive way. Working with Safer Lives has been the best thing I could have possibly done for my rehabilitation and understanding. I am very grateful to Andy and the team."

(Outcome - 12 months imprisonment)

J from Midlands. "The judge was really impressed with the work I had done with you at Safer Lives and said it clearly showed I was already taking steps to prevent any re offending. Once again thank you for all of your help, at a tough time in my life you were one of the first people that showed faith in me and helped set me back on the right path to rebuilding my life, I can’t thank you enough and will always remember you as a hugely influential person in my life."

(Outcome - Community Order)

"Thank you Jenny and Safer Lives for giving me hope at a point where quite frankly death seemed preferable. It helped so much in being able to talk with another human being over the awful things I had been doing which over time I had normalised in my mind. In addition to this, with the skills and professional knowledge Jenny brought to these sessions, I started to understand more about myself, what had contributed to my behaviour and ultimately what I need to do to keep myself on the right path. I have no hesitation in recommending Safer Lives. They are a game changer."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

L from South Yorkshire. "I also just wanted to thank you very much for last year and the sessions, it was worth every penny and i would highly reccomend it to anyone, the biggest help was talking about my problems in the past that led to where my mind set had got too, that helped me a lot to get it out of my system and talk about it, i am in a good place in life now after Monday i can go forwards, now covid is sort of calming down so i can restart my life, i just wanted to thank you so much, i feel that carried a hell of a lot of weight when i mentioned i had gone to you off my own back, she said that was a big factor that i was not told to go there i just went, so your program does carry a LOT of weight with it. sorry to go on a lot but i am just so happy and relieved !"
(Outcome - Conditional Caution)

"Andy was a great person to talk to. He is highly experienced in his field and was non judgemental but also clear in indentifying what behaviours I may have over stepped boundaries on. Through the course I've been able to set up measures and support to ensure I do not repeat my behaviour and also understand the consequences I may face. I wish to thank Andy for his support and making me feel I can look toward a future once the investigation is complete."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

G from the South East. "Thanks for taking the time to talk to me and to listen. I found the sessions difficult but have gained more insight than I have from therapy so far, having spent a lot more on the latter."

(Outcome – pending)

 

"Thank you for the compassion and the understanding you had towards me. I believe the society needs to understand more about porn addiction, the results of that and what causes it. People need more support than they have. Often they feel judged and misunderstood and you definitely helped me control those feelings. More long term services like yours are needed." 

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

G from West Yorkshire. "Before I met Safer Lives my suicide was unnegotiable.

(Outcome – Community Order) 

"I feel the programme, and Andy in particular, are great. No topic was out of bounds and the flexibility of the sessions allowed for things to emerge organically whilst still following the prescribed structure of the programme. I learnt more about myself in these sessions than I have in formal therapy."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

R from South Yorkshire. It may seem like a strange thing to say given I now sit here with a criminal record, but actually I have a sense of optimism about the future that I haven’t had for a long, long time – and that includes long before my arrest. I’m a far better version of myself today than I was the first day I walked in an sat down with Jenny and Andy for our first session together. 

(Outcome – Suspended Sentence) 

"When I thought life as I hade previously known it had come crashing down on me the sessions with Safer Lives gave me the feeling that there was hope. There was a way forward."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

N from West Yorkshire. "Safer Lives helped me from the start and I felt a bond to their compassion at the most difficult time in my young life. Andy prepared me for what it would be like in prison. He had worked on the wing I went on to, and I even met someone who remembered him with affection and spoke about his integrity. And that's the word I would use to describe Safer Lives.  Andy wrote to me inside and when I came out I continued seeing them for a while because I was struggling with re-establishing myself and Probation were well meaning but ultimately unhelpful with the emotional side of things. I have a job again, and I continue working on being a better person."  

(Outcome - 8 months imprisonment)  

"Safer Lives have provided calm and measured advice at a time where I struggled to find clarity of information from other sources. It has been a very useful programme in helping me start to understand myself and the next steps."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

P from Greater Manchester. "I would also like to say thank you again for our sessions, they have given me a greater strength and resolve not to succumb to my addiction and I feel that I am on a much better path now than before I first sat down with you, you have been a great help in my recovery and It is so very much appreciated."

(Outcome - Community Order) 

"Jenny has a very warm and welcoming persona which instantly puts you at ease. She shows compassion and understanding which make it easy to open up to her. Safer Lives have been a lifeline in a difficult time both in helping deal with the moment but also in starting to move forwards. Thank you!"

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

T from North East. "Once again I can not thank you enough for all of the help you have given us. I was in a very dark place when I first contacted Safer Lives and you managed to give me the hope and courage to see this through.

The (Probation) pre-sentence report was very good and a lot of that was down to the advice you gave me. The fact that I had completed the Safer Lives course, had informed my ISP to block all 'adult' sites and installed accountability software on my devices helped enormously."

(Outcome: Suspended Sentence)

"I found the sessions very helpful in focusing my mind on what I have done and need to do to address my behaviour in the future. They gave me insight into my life and provided me with strategies to ensure that I manage my stress in the future. Professional, understanding, non-judgemental and caring. Do not hesitate to reach out to Safer Lives, once you do you put yourself on a journey to recovery and rehabilitation."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

S from London. "Just wanted to let you know that I just got back from court. I was given 18 months suspended sentence. All ok. We can now rebuild our lives and put this behind us. I just wanted to say thank you for everything. Your input to this helped a great deal and was a key factor in my excellent pre sentence report I think."

(Outcome - Suspended Sentence)

 

"Safer Lives do make a difference to you in difficult circumstances,they listen, understand,are not judgemental and help you understand your issues,they are there to help you. The Programme they offer is excellent."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

 

C from West Yorkshire. "When I found myself under investigation for offences relating to indecent images, my world fell apart. I found myself cut adrift from friends and family and was terrified of what was to come in terms of the legal process. Over the course of just a few sessions, Jenny at Safer Lives gave me not just a sense of perspective about how I'd come to be in that position, but equipped me with the tools I needed to face the future and start to respect myself and those I love. Fortunately, the investigation was dropped without charge, but the work I did with Safer Lives was literally invaluable in helping me to get through those terrifying months."

(Outcome - No Further Action)

"I strongly recommend engaging with Safer Lives if you require a compassionate and professional service to help understand, explain and address your harmful online behaviours."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

M from West Yorkshire. "When the forensic tests came back with a handful of images my (investigating) officer said a conditional caution was possible in my case. I think attending the (Safer Lives) appointments was crucial. My solicitor made a case that I'd engaged with rehabilitation while I'd been waiting on a decision, and their letter pointed to me being low risk of making this mistake again and that I'd changed important things that contributed to it."

(Outcome - Conditional Caution. The condition being three more sessions with Safer Lives)

"Safer Lives really helped by being non judgemental and really gave a good framework to help me understand my behaviour. The support at the start of my investigation has been very useful."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

C from Humberside. "I was made to feel at ease to talk, and with Andy’s skill to make me lead the discussion and it’s direction rather than tell me what to do I felt more in control. Any aspects of the future which may be difficult, challenging or unpleasant were handled with compassion, but with the understanding that the success would be in my hands. 

Thanks for listening, encouraging, helping and guiding. I feel I am now a different person better placed to face the future with no regression to old behaviour. Understanding without judgement!"

(Outcome - pending)

"I found the programme really well structured taking me through all the steps needed to reflect on myself and the crime. Andy was kind and very knowledgeable, and really helped put things into perspective for me."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

B from North West. "I am exceptionally grateful for your assistance and the advice you provided. Without the Safer Lives relapse prevention plan, risk analysis sheet and detailed letter I am certain that this would have gone to court. Most importantly, my outlook and attitude towards IIOC and pornography in general has transformed following completion of the course." 

(Outcome - Conditional Caution)

"Open and honest, yet hard hitting in terms of the actual cross over from 'only' being online to the real world and it's associated consequences. From my personal experience prevention,learning and awareness would of been key in potentially preventing poor extremely misinformed decisions and behaviours that have potentially to cause harm to others including minors."

(Service evaluation feedback - client awaiting outcome of investigation)

Anonymous from Midlands. "For most of my adult life I have lived in fear of the day when I will be arrested. That fear is still there and is a hard thing to shift – the fear that my world will fall apart and I will have questions to answer. Working with Safer Lives has meant that I have stopped the behaviour and I feel a new confidence that it is behind me. I have been given pragmatic advice and a new understanding of why I was looking at child images. This will be a lifelong journey for me but I am so relieved to have found help, and that I took that step to send the first email. Just being able to talk about this burden in a safe place has been life-changing and I now feel safe in myself. I have stopped self-harming, and my levels of self-loathing are so diminished. My future now seems so different, and the fear of the police coming is slowly diminishing as the time between now and my last viewing of images grows. While I can think so rationally, I don’t feel there is a real chance that I will return to it, and I can resist any temptations. 

I’d like to thanks Safer Lives for being there for me. I urge anyone battling their sexual thoughts and attractions to read the online newspaper article about Safer Lives. It gave me confidence to reach for their help.

(No police involvement - came to Safer Lives for prevention work)

Solicitor Testimonials

James McAulay - Partner ABR solicitors.

Safer Lives have provided detailed and professional advice to our clients.  They have shown remarkable empathy and understanding for those facing criminal prosecution.  The work undertaken has proved crucial for those facing criminal charges/sentence.   Jenny and Andy provide a comfortable and safe surrounding.  In the midst of the Covid 19 pandemic, they have continued to support their clients.  Their work really does make the difference.

 

The contact they maintain has reassured our clients and has equally helped them to reconcile the issues they face.  It has provided them with an understanding of their behaviours and attitudes.  The work undertaken results in a detailed report being prepared for consideration at court.  The Magistrates and Judges welcome that report and take that into account when determining sentence.

Andrew Ford - Partner Holborn Adams I was lucky to discover the services of Safer Lives a couple of years ago. Since then, scores of my clients, and their families, have benefitted from the services they provide. They are professional, discreet and very easy to speak with in a time which is without doubt the most difficult time of the clients’ life.